Tuesday, August 02, 2005
Another guest post from Puss In Boots-Life is good for now...guess I better enjoy it while it is!
Thanks everyone for all of the EXCELLENT ADVICE on my job situation! I SURE HOPE Mrs. Pissy's family vacation is going GREAT, she has only been gone 2 and a half days and I feel like it has already been a week, I miss her SOOO MUCH!! I guess it is a good thing that my life is going really well right now since I don't have her to vent to and get advice from! I have just been taking the week easy, getting pumped up about starting my new job next week, I figure I better enjoy it while it lasts, it has been a VERY LONG time since I have felt completely stress free, it seems like my life over the last couple of years has been nonstop overwhelming stress! Just to fill yall in and make this post more interesting, here is why I feel like my life has been so stressful:1. I got married on May 11, 2002 (I was 26).
2. I bought a house and moved into it September 5, 2003.
3. My husband was a complete alcoholic loser and I was well on my way to joining him on a serious downward spiral.
4. I moved out of the house and separated from my husband on November 2, 2003.
5. I was in a long distance relationship with a new man that got very serious very quick.
6. In February of 2004 my divorce was finalized, my car broke down, I quit my job, got engaged and moved 250 miles away from all of my friends and family.
7. In March of 2004 the house that my now ex-husband and I had bought finally sold, I had been paying 1/2 of the $1,400 mortgage even though I wasn't living there since November and since we'd had the house for such a short amount of time, I actually had to pay $5,000 at the closing to get rid of it.
8. I started a new job April 5, 2004.
9. I got married for the 2nd time on July 10, 2004.
10. My new husband and I had $22,000.00 in credit card debt, we also had about $30,000.00 in student loans.
10. My new husband became a completely different person than he was while we were in our whirlwind romance and was now all of sudden a controlling asshole.
11. We fought like crazy and I considered leaving him MANY, MANY times.
12. The new job SUCKED ASS, it was the HARDEST, WORST job I've ever had.
13. My new husband had also put us on a VERY strict budget and I am not even allowed to spend $1.00 out of my paycheck without telling him first if it isn't in the budget, I was used to spending every single dime I made before the next payday.
14. We started marriage couseling in January of 2005, thankfully it actually helped.
15. In April of 2005 my husband and I signed a contract to have a house built (considering my experiences the 1st time around this was extremely difficult for me)
Okay, sooo in the last couple of months, my husband and I have been getting along better than ever, we have currently paid off $16,000.00 of the credit card debt, I quit drinking, I volunteered for a smoking study and have seriously cut back to like 10 cigarettes per week, a few weeks ago I was able to buy a used treadmill from one of the nurses running the smoking study with money that I had gotten paid for participating in the study (I have actually been using it like 5 days a week and I think the exercise has really helped me to relieve some stress), by the time we move into our new house in January our credit card debt will be gone and I of course just got a new job! The only thing that currently still sucks in my life is that I still live 250 miles away from my family and friends, but THANKFULLY my best friend as you all know Mrs. Pissy Britches emails me EVERY single day and I am still in fairly close driving distance, I can go there for a weekend easily and now that we are almost out of debt I will soon be able to afford the gas to drive there to visit them more often and when we move into our house in January we will have room for them to come and visit us :) So what are some of the most stressful times that you all have had and how did you get through them? I'd love to hear how other people cope with stress in their lives!
3 Comments:
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commented at 3:00 PM~
Hi Puss in Boots-sounds like your life is starting to downsize on the stressors and thats great. My most stressful time in my life? Hmm when my honey was in the Army and overseas. Family members useta call and tell me how many soldiers died and then ask me if I had talked to him. Had 2 kids to raise on my own-that was a stressor. My life is full of stress actually, but I try not to dwell on all of it and deal with one thing at a time. It's the only way I can get through it sometimes. Otherwise, I'd be in my bed with the blankets over my head--for days!
I'm glad to hear you quit drinking so much and are cutting back on the cigs. Good for you! And congrats on working your marriage out. That can be a huge weight on your shoulders if that's fallin apart. Good for you!-
Firestarter5 commented at 6:36 PM~
Snappin' assholes...I seem to be living in Wonderland compared to you. Then again, I'm not married (zero interest and the fact I could never trust anyone that much). I have to quit smoking as well. Fucking stupid habit. I could fucking kick myself for starting way back when. Other than that, I just let shit slide. No sense getting all worked up over things. I just think about the olden days where people were living in shacks out in the middle of nowhere like Little House on The Prairie. They seemed to get buy without all the goddamn gadgets and frivolous stuff. I admire those people...they were tough.
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dashababy commented at 5:02 PM~
LOL@ Firestarter, I like your style. I like to let shit slide too but I often get caught with my panties in a wad for why??? Hell, I dont know, somethin to do I guess. I dont think Im stressing, then the body starts to give me these warning signs like,, hmmm why are my shoulders like rocks and I cant move my neck? the back rebels too, I carry alot of stress in my back. Jacuzzi, massage and some days away from work always help me. Well, and a few muscle relaxers mixed in there somewhere.
Puss, sounds like youve had a heck of a year. Glad to hear your sticking it out with the hubby and going for the new house again. I give you credit for gettin back on that horse. That is a very stressful process. Very commendable too paying off your credit cards. Sounds like your moving in a positive direction.
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